This is the story of how I got my wife to join yuvutu with me - I've told it a few times in general chat - if you want to get your wife involved on here, maybe my story will help inspire you to success (no guarantees will be made - tread carefully!)
Like many couples who have been married for a while (we are both 40), our sex life had decreased steadily over the past couple years. To the point for me, the male, where it was becoming frustrating, and for her it was becoming frustrating for another reason and more of an 'obligation'. I'm sure that will resonate with quite a few of you who are in a similar situation. Without getting into the details, I tried a lot of different things to try and rekindle the sexual spark, with very little success.. We had watched porn together off and on over the years and I had noticed (and she had said) she has a preference for threesome porn but even that she wasn't really interested in watching with me anymore.... Until one day.....
She was at work and I noticed a groupon offer for a dating site (for those of you who don't have groupon in the world, it's essentially a website which has a daily offer for a discounted product of some kind - you buy whatever at a discount and can redeem the offer at the website/story/whatever). As a joke, I sent her a link to the groupon - fully expecting her to come back with a snappy answer of 'you going to find yourself a new girlfriend" or something like that but instead she wrote "okay, but which one of us would join?"... whaaaaaat. I totally didn't expect that answer... so, cautiously, I mentioned that there are other sites where couples can join. Sites for dating, or talking, or chatting, or camming or dirty chatting, or whatever. (For the record, I was not a member of yuvu or any other similar site prior to us coming on here together - I had definately watched porn, but never chatted online with people before). She said something like "really? You're probably already on there" and I reassured her I certainly wasn't. She then said I probably just wanted to go on so I could watch girls or hit on them. THIS WAS KEY FOR ME GUYS - I told her it was not at all for me - it was COMPLETELY for her and that I wanted to see her flirt and play and get turned on. That's what I enjoy. I told her NO pressure at all.. we could go on together, see what was what and go slow and whatever she felt comfortable with was fine with me.
I then set about finding a site that would be good for us that night when we got the ***** to bed - after quite a bit of searching and quick exploring, I settled on yuvu. Seemed to be the right mix of chatting and nothing too graphic too fast (lots of scary sites out there) as well as amateur which is what we wanted - and FREE :).
So - we got the ***** to bed that night and she started to have a few drinks of the alcoholic variety to relax a bit (she was quite nervous!) and we went online. I don't really remember that first hour or so - if we talked to anyone or if anyone talked to us, but I do remember that we finally ended up going into a PM chat with a nice Brit guy (you know who you are :)). Mrs was feeling the alcohol quite a bit by this point but she was still extremely shy and reserved and nervous. The chat FINALLY started getting away from the 'getting to know each other' phase (which lasted a LONG time :)) and went a bit dirty. Very tame by our standards today mind you :D but at the time, for her, was extremely shocking. He would say something and she would type something back and ask me "is that okay?" and I would reassure her that it was fine, and I was okay with it. He would say something a bit dirtier and she would type something and look at me to make sure I was okay with it. I kept nodding and telling her it was fine. I actually had to push her that first night to say things dirty - she was so nervous and uncomfortable with it - it was such a foreign concept to her... 'my husband is okay with me flirting with other guys?!' - it went against everything she had done before in her life - suppressing any feelings of that kind.
From there, it was basically just more and more chat that kept geting dirtier, and dirtier and dirtier... eventually, after quite a bit of time, he proposed an audio chat in private. Needless to say she was VERY nervous and was asking me if she should or shouldn't. Even I was a bit leery of this - I had never planned for it to go this far tonight! I was okay with it enough i guess, and luckily she had drank a few drinks and was willing to try it - "we can always just turn the computer off if it's weird!" and away to the basement we went for privacy (just in case of waking the *****).
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